Dear Diary & Listeners,
In today's episode, I had the pleasure of sitting down with Ambre to delve into the whirlwind of emotions and experiences that come with falling in love with a Wolf in Sheep's clothing.
Ambre takes us through her journey of meeting our shared ex, where the sparks flew and the relationship progressed rapidly. She opens up about the initial attraction, the deepening of their feelings, and the shared belief that they had each found their soulmate.
Our conversation also takes a personal turn as Ambre shares insights into her background, family life, and religious upbringing, providing a rich context to her part of this story.
We navigate through my own experiences, recounting the excitement and connection I felt upon meeting Dick. I reveal the challenges and discoveries I faced, including the surprising revelations about his past engagements and financial behaviors that led to a stark realization of dishonesty and manipulation.
Together, Ambre and I explore the intricate dynamics of our scarily similar relationships, from meeting significant family members to confronting the turmoil and uncertainties that emerged. It's a heartfelt and eye-opening discussion about love, trust, and the lessons we learn along the way.
Thank you for tuning in, and I hope this episode resonates with you as much as it did with me.
You can learn more about Ambre by checking out her socials below:
Instagram: @AmbreFit
YouTube: @ambrefit
Twitter: @TheAmbreFit
TikTok: @AmbreFit
www.AmbreFit.com
 
Stay tuned for PART 2 or this THREE part story next week!
 
Forever Speaking My Truth,
Amanda Arnier, MLS
 
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Music: Ashley England
Guest: Ambre McKee
Sound Production: Amanda L. Arnier
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Dear Diary & Listeners, 
In this powerful and raw episode of The Dichotomy Diaries, Amanda sits down with Ambre to uncover the many layers of their toxic relationships. The conversation delves into several deeply personal themes, including:
Strained Family Dynamics: Amanda shares insights into the troubled relationship between her husband and his father, exposing the negative family dynamics and emotional abuse she endured.
Financial Control and Manipulation: Both Amanda and Ambre discuss the financial issues they faced, including how their partners used money as a tool for control and manipulation.
Emotional and Verbal Abuse: They recount the hurtful comments, derogatory language, and verbal attacks that characterized their relationships, highlighting the damaging impact on their mental health.
Gambling Addiction: The episode explores the significant role that Amanda's husband's gambling addiction played in their lives, adding another layer of complexity to the abuse.
Conflict Diffusion: Amanda and Ambre describe their roles as peacemakers in constant conflicts, often at the expense of their own well-being.
Suspicious Friendships: The conversation also touches on the suspicious and unhealthy relationship between Amanda's husband, Dick, and his friend Matt.
The episode continues with Ambre's experiences of manipulation, coercion, and financial abuse in her relationship. Key points include:
Broken Promises and Anxiety: Ambre recounts how her partner's broken promises left her feeling scared and anxious, a sentiment Amanda relates to deeply.
Self-Prioritization and Derogation: They discuss how their partners prioritized themselves, often putting Ambre down and making her feel insignificant.
Steroids and Hormone Therapy: Ambre shares how her partner's involvement with steroids and hormone therapy affected their relationship, including an incident of physical aggression.
Car Situation: They talk about the partner's procrastination in getting a new car, reflecting his overall lack of responsibility.
Finally, Amanda and Ambre discuss their experiences living with a narcissist, shedding light on:
Unstable Living Conditions: They share stories of being moved to different apartments without consent, contributing to financial instability.
Empty Promises: The narcissists' habit of making promises and failing to follow through, leaving them in precarious situations during trips and daily life.
Obsession with Fitness: The narcissists' fixation on gyms and fitness, and how it impacted their relationships.
Dangerous Behavior: Accounts of physically aggressive behavior during "play fights" and the narcissists' lack of remorse.
Through this candid conversation, Amanda and Ambre highlight the manipulative, unpredictable, and damaging nature of their relationships with narcissists. Tune in to hear their stories and gain a deeper understanding of the complex dynamics of abusive relationships.
Remember to share this episode if it resonates with you or someone you know, and follow The Dichotomy Diaries for more stories of strength and resilience.
 
Forever Speaking My Truth,
Amanda
 
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Music: Ashley England
Guest: Ambre McKee
Sound Production: Amanda L. Arnier
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Dear Diary & Listeners, 
 
HAPPY SUMMER SOLSTICE! 
 
I know right? Quite coincidental for the LAST part of Ambre's story to be released wouldn't you say? 
 
I love it when things like that happen. 
 
I also love it when you can tell by the look in someone's face that a weight has been lifted from sharing something they kept to themselves for so long. 
 
I applaud Ambre for making herself vulnerable and putting herself out there by telling this story. 
 
In this episode you will hear some pretty shocking things...
 
From Dick's unconventional bedroom requests to a new scary part to his persona- stalking...
 
I hope you enjoy Summer Solstice Part 3. 
 
Please make sure you give Ambre a follow, her links are below and make sure you head over and subscribe to YouTube. All episodes are released there FIRST. 
 
Forever Speaking My Truth, 
Amanda L. Arnier, MLS
 
Instagram: @AmbreFit
YouTube: @ambrefit
Twitter: @TheAmbreFit
TikTok: @AmbreFit
www.AmbreFit.com
 
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If you or anyone you know has experienced anything similar and is willing to share, please click the link below to schedule a time to chat with me. 
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Email: TheDichotomyDiaries@yahoo.com
Music: Ashley England
Guest: Ambre McKee
Sound Production: Amanda L. Arnier
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Dear Diary & Listeners, 
In today’s episode, I am joined by a very special guest—Savana, who was once engaged to Dick. From the moment I reached out to her, Savana has been a pillar of support in uncovering the shocking truths about our shared ex.
Savana’s story is one of beauty, resilience, and positive energy. She brings her sassy and captivating personality to this conversation, making for an episode you won't want to miss. Together, we dive into the complexities of their experiences with Dick, revealing insights that are both startling and compelling.
This episode marks part one of their revealing conversation, titled “Straight to Zelle.” Be sure to give Savana a follow, her social media links are listed below!
Oh, go check out the video recording of this podcast, now live on YouTube. Don’t forget to subscribe to our channel, each podcast episode drops on YouTube before anywhere else!
Forever Sharing My Truth,
Amanda L. Arnier, MLS
 
Savana's Hair Instagram
Savana's Personal Instagram
Savana's TikTok
 
Stay tuned for PART 2 of Straight to Zelle coming out NEXT WEEK!
 
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Email: TheDichotomyDiaries@yahoo.com
Music: Ashley England
Guest: Savana Martin
Sound Production: Amanda L. Arnier
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Dear Diary & Listeners,
I think we may have uncovered something important during this episode...
As Savana and I discuss how her and Dick's engagement came to an abrupt end, I realize that I share with her that she had NO idea about.
Imagine her surprise when I fill her in on what HER FIANCE was doing way back when. Better yet, imagine the AUDACITY this man has to tell me the truth about his whereabouts and doings, while completely leaving out the fact that he was actively engaged to this beautiful human.
Savana and I really want to emphasize how important it is to continue to do things for YOURSELF while in a relationship, NEW or OLD, you need to maintain your sense of self at all cost.
Luckily for Savana, Dick wasn't able to break her spirit like he did many others, myself included. Savana's fighter soul is what gave her the strength to persevere and know what was best for her... A LIFE WITHOUT DICK.
Let's be honest, that's literally what's best for everyone.
I hope you enjoyed hearing Savana's story and have some good takeaways.
Whether you're in a similar relationship, or know someone who is struggling to get out- just remember that your presence matters in the life of others.
Whether they are gracious or not.
Forever Sharing My Truth,
Amanda L. Arnier, MLS
 
Savana's Hair Instagram
Savana's Personal Instagram
Savana's TikTok
 
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If you or anyone you know has experienced anything similar and is willing to share, please click the link below to schedule a time to chat with me. 
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Email: TheDichotomyDiaries@yahoo.com
Music: Ashley England
Guest: Savana Martin
Sound Production: Amanda L. Arnier
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Dear Diary & Listeners,
In this exciting Bonus Episode of The Dichotomy Diaries, I interview the beautiful, bad ass, Vanessa Reiser, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker from The Big Apple who's got a BOOK coming out soon! (Pre-Order Link Below!)
We talk about SO many juicy topics including the connection between narcissistic abuse and cults, the behavior and mindset of narcissists and psychopaths, and dissect the experience of victims down piece by piece.
We touch on the confusing role most family members take in (not) warning others about the narcissist in their life. Join us as we break down the challenges of conveying the complexity of narcissistic abuse in a concise manner others. A topic that I've really struggled with lately...
This episode also explores trauma bonding and addiction in narcissistic relationships. Vanessa and I talk about the repetitive cycle of love bombing, devaluing, and discarding, which creates a trauma bond and intense addiction to the makeup session.
Vanessa emphasizes the need for support and understanding for those trying to extricate themselves from these relationships, comparing it to drug addiction. Not to mention the post-separation abuse that can occur, which more often than not, includes attempts to destroy the victim's life.
I had SO MUCH FUN chatting in up with Vanessa and learning all the things from her not only about my relationship with Dick, but about important topics and congruencies I wasn't even aware of.
Forever Speaking My Truth, Amanda
Be sure to check below for Vanessa's website, how to find her on Social Media, and Pre-Order her new book: Narcissistic Abuse: A Therapist's Guide to Identifying, Escaping, and Healing from Toxic and Manipulative People.
 
 @vanessareiserlcsw-narcissi5380 
Website: https://www.tellatherapist.net
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vanessareiserlcsw
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@vanessareiser
BOOK PRE ORDER: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0306833174
 
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If you or anyone you know has experienced anything similar and is willing to share, please click the link below to schedule a time to chat with me. 
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Email: TheDichotomyDiaries@yahoo.com
Music: Ashley England
Guest: Vanessa Reiser, LCSW
Sound Production: Amanda L. Arnier
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Dear Diary & Listener's,
I cannot tell you how excited I was to book this interview, with Dr. Nadine Macaluso. While most of you may not know her immediately by just mentioning her name- most of you probably know her story.
Dr. Nadine Macaluso was married to Jordan Belfort, The Wolf of Wall Street. Her character, name changed, was played by the beautiful Margo Robbie in the Scorsese director box office hit!
Join Dr. Nae and I as we discuss so many topics dear to both of our hearts.
In this episode Dr. Nadine Macaluso, a licensed marriage and family therapist, shares her story of being married to Jordan Belfort, the Wolf of Wall Street, and how it led her to write a book and become an advocate for trauma bonding and pathological lovers.
She discusses the challenges of having her life portrayed in a movie and the lack of control she had over the narrative. Dr. Macaluso emphasizes the importance of self-reflection and understanding one's own vulnerabilities in order to break free from toxic relationships. She also explores the concept of cognitive dissonance and the difficulty of leaving an abusive partner.
The conversation explores the themes of healing from trauma bonds, finding one's voice, and navigating new relationships after abuse. Dr. Nae and I emphasize the importance of self-compassion and grace in the healing process. The conversation also touches on the challenges of co-parenting and the impact of trauma bonds on children. We both share their personal experiences and offer hope for post-traumatic growth and reinvention.
Forever Speaking My Truth,
Amanda
 
Be sure to check below for Dr. Nadine's website where you can order her book Run Like Hell and explore many of her free tools, like the Self Compassion Assessment we discussed in this episode. Give Dr. Nae a follow on her social media, all linked below as well!
‪@TheRealDrNadine‬
Website: https://drnae.com/about-dr-nadine-mac...
Free Assessments by Dr. Nae: https://drnae.com/assessments/
Order Run Like Hell Book Here: https://drnae.com/run-like-hell-book/
Instagram:   / therealdrnadine  
TikTok:   / drnaelmft  
Twitter:   / therealdrnadine  
Facebook:   / drnaelmft  
 
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If you or anyone you know has experienced anything similar and is willing to share, please click the link below to schedule a time to chat with me. 
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Dear Diary & Listeners, 
I did an interview a while back with two LOVELY ladies by the name of Behk & LAH. If you haven't heard it yet, you're about to. 
Enjoy!
Amanda
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In this special collaboration episode, Behk & LAH of "Narcissists, Gaslighters, and Cheaters, Oh My!" sit down with Amanda Arnier, the insightful host of "The Dichotomy Diaries Podcast." Together, they explore emotional intricacies in relationships, focusing on the challenges of dealing with narcissists and toxic people. 
Topics Discussed:
Meet Amanda Arnier of the podcast, The Dichotomy Diaries
Trust – is it earned or a gift?
Why Amanda started “The Dichotomy Diaries” podcast
The importance of sharing our stories
The case of Dick
The dual mothership theory by Dr. Vaknin 
We’re Carl Jungians
Attachments
Amanda’s healing journey
What's next for “The Dichotomy Diaries?”
Amanda brings her unique perspective from "The Dichotomy Diaries," where she recounts her relationship with Dick and shares the experiences of other women who were also involved with him. This episode discusses the complexities of narcissists, strategies for navigating toxic dynamics, and the importance of sharing these stories for healing.
Please tune in for an intimate and revealing dialogue that offers a deeper understanding of Amanda’s mission and the powerful stories she shares with her audience.
Subscribe and listen to "Narcissists, Gaslighters, and Cheaters, Oh My!" and "The Dichotomy Diaries" on your favorite podcast platforms. Don't forget to rate, review, and share! 
 
Book mentioned in this episode:
The Road Less Traveled: A New Psychology of Love, Values, and Spiritual Growth by M. Scott Peck M.D.
 
Content Warning: This episode discusses various forms of toxic abuse, narcissistic abuse, and any topics that may disturb some listeners. Listener discretion is advised. 
We are not doctors or therapists; you should not take our opinions as medical advice.
 
Hosts: Behk & LAH
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Production & Design: LAHarden
Music: No Reason Why by Anchor
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