The Dichotomy Diaries Podcast

When host Amanda meets Dick, the charming Mormon man from Las Vegas relentlessly pursuing her via social media for months, she never could have imagined the whirlwind that would follow. What starts as a passionate romance quickly spirals into something far more sinister. The Dichotomy Diaries isn’t just about your “run-of-the-mill” divorce—it’s about seven women, all unknowingly connected by the same predator, sharing their raw, unfiltered stories of betrayal, manipulation, and abusive games disguised as love. Season One pulls back the curtain on The Dichotomy that is Dick; as Amanda and his other victims untangle the dark layers of deceit he’s woven. On the surface, he’s the charming, devoted Mormon, but beneath that facade lies a man entangled in the deeply hidden and taboo world of financial domination, secret escorting for men, and compulsive gambling. Together, these seven women expose not just the abusive games he played, but the resilience it takes to emerge from them. Join The Dichotomy Diaries as we dive into firsthand accounts of survival, twisted relationships, and the journey to rise from the ashes. These aren’t just stories—they’re proof that truth is often stranger than fiction.

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Amanda Arnier

Podcast Host

Hi, I’m Amanda—let’s take a walk through my day.

First thing’s first: caffeine, floor cuddles & affirmations with my Great Danes, and a quick reality check that yes, I’m still obsessed with true crime podcasts. (this part will make sense more a little later)

By 10 a.m., I’m either deep in podcast recording mode, unraveling some of the wildest relationship drama you've ever heard, or prepping for the next episode of The Dichotomy Diaries—my little corner of the podcast world where I spill everything I’ve learned (and unlearned) about myself, love, manipulation, and finding your way out of some seriously dark places.

If you’re looking for credentials, I’ve got them. I hold two degrees from Arizona State University—because, you know, why not make life even more complex by adding Law School to the mix? But honestly, my real expertise comes from life itself. I’ve lived through more than a few “you can’t make this up” situations, and sharing those stories has become my lifeline—and hopefully, yours too.

Here’s what you need to know: this podcast is about me being real, and by real, I mean sharing my soul, my mess, and all the lessons that came from it. I was in a relationship that nearly broke me, but instead of hiding the shame, I decided to put it out there, raw and unfiltered. And while everyone thought I was nuts, this was how I reclaimed my power.

My gut told me this podcast was the key to healing, and, spoiler alert—it was right. Now, I use my story to connect with people like you, who’ve probably had their own share of “WTF?” moments in love.

So, stick around if you’re into some serious tea, unfiltered truths, lots of laughs, and maybe, just maybe, some healing along the way.

Random Facts

- I might as well be a dude when it comes to sports. I’m obsessed with F1, tennis, hockey, the NBA, and Roll Tide Alabama football. Bet I know more player stats than the guy you’re dating.

- My Great Danes, Carrera Miura are named after my favorite classic Lamborghini and Monza Firenze after my top bucket list F1 race and my favorite city in the entire world.

- Most days, I just want to escape to the woods, pitch a tent, and sip on some Coors Light by a fire with my dogs and my boyfriend. Moments over Materials.

- I’m completely self-taught in podcasting, from production to graphic design. If you see it or hear it, I did that shit myself.

- I’ve been listening to true crime podcasts since Serial debuted, and let me tell you, I never in a million years thought I would be the subject of a true crime documentary, let alone the host of a TOP 1.5% global podcast!

- I can belt out Andrea Bocelli, analyze Dante’s Inferno, and teach you some crazy history on pasta origins—I love my heritage!

The Story Markets Itself...

What is Listen Score? Listen Score (LS) is a metric that shows the estimated popularity of this podcast compared to other rss-based public podcasts in the world on a scale from 0 to 100. The higher, the more popular. Calculated from 1st and 3rd party data. Updated monthly.

What is Global Rank? This podcast is one of the top 1.5% most popular shows out of 3,433,423 podcasts globally, ranked by Listen Score (the estimated popularity score).

My Why

The Dichotomy Diaries is where I lay it all out—everything in my soul. The good, the bad, the messy, the embarrassing—I hold nothing back. I knew deep down that I needed to rid myself of the shame I had carried from my past relationship. And while everyone around me thought sharing my story was a bad idea, I felt it in every fiber of my being that this was the only way I would truly heal from a wound that was so deep and intentional.

At a time when I couldn’t even trust my own judgment—after being manipulated and hurt by someone I believed deeply loved me—this podcast became my lifeline. It was the key to me learning to trust my gut again. Through telling these stories, I realized without a doubt that I knew exactly what I needed to do to save myself.

This podcast isn’t just about telling my story—it’s about reclaiming my power, finding my voice, and understanding that I’ve always had the strength within me. Sharing everything here has been my way of healing, and it’s proof that even when you think you can’t trust yourself, you absolutely can.

Episodes

Tuesday Mar 12, 2024

KYLE - For The Plot: Part 1

Tuesday Mar 12, 2024

Dear Diary & Listeners,
You are now entering the part of The Dichotomy Diaries I like to refer to as...
THE INTERVIEWS
Everyone you will hear from, from this point forward is someone who had a first hand relationship with the monster that I married.
What my guests will be sharing will be FACTUAL, raw, and chronological.
You will also get an opportunity to ask guests of The Dichotomy Diaries questions in between the different parts of their episodes...
Please submit your questions in a DM on @TheDichotomyDiaries Instagram or directly to Email at TheDichotomyDiaries@yahoo.com
First up, we have Kyle. A wonderfully warm and chatty gentleman from Phoenix, AZ who saw through Dick's facade faster than most; but played along- because the P L O T was just too juicy.
Please don't forget to rate, review, share, and comment. Your interactions get The Dichotomy Diaries noticed. Thank you for your continued support as always.

VIDEO RECORDINGS OF EPISODES ARE HERE!

Forever Speaking My Truth,
Amanda Arnier, MLS

WE ARE ACTIVELY LOOKING FOR SEASON TWO'S STORY!
If you or anyone you know has experienced anything similar and is willing to share, please click the link below to schedule a time to chat with me.
Season Two Story Pitch Call
Email: TheDichotomyDiaries@yahoo.com
Music: Ashley England
Guest: "Kyle"
Sound Production: Amanda L. Arnier
Patreon: The Dichotomy Diaries
Merch: The Dichotomy Diaries Podcast Storefront
YouTube: Video Recordings of Episodes!
Podcast Website: www.TheDichotomyDiaries.com
Insta: @TheDichotomyDiariesPodcast
TikTok: @TheDichotomyDiaries
Facebook: The Dichotomy Diaries

Wednesday Mar 20, 2024

KYLE - For The Plot: Part 2

Wednesday Mar 20, 2024

Dear Diary & Listeners,
We're back with Kyle for Part Two!

I want to extend my greatest gratitude out to Kyle for sharing his story with us.

It was so wonderful to hear from another person with similar experiences. This validates me in my truth and I hope so many more of you in your own.

I know you've waited alllll day.

So here you go. Let's get to it!

VIDEO RECORDINGS OF EPISODES ARE HERE!

Forever Speaking My Truth,
Amanda Arnier, MLS
WE ARE ACTIVELY LOOKING FOR SEASON TWO'S STORY!
If you or anyone you know has experienced anything similar and is willing to share, please click the link below to schedule a time to chat with me.
Season Two Story Pitch Call
Email: TheDichotomyDiaries@yahoo.com
Music: Ashley England
Guest: "Kyle"
Sound Production: Amanda L. Arnier
Patreon: The Dichotomy Diaries
Merch: The Dichotomy Diaries Podcast Storefront
YouTube: Video Recordings of Episodes!
Podcast Website: www.TheDichotomyDiaries.com
Insta: @TheDichotomyDiariesPodcast
TikTok: @TheDichotomyDiaries
Facebook: The Dichotomy Diaries

Tuesday Mar 26, 2024

A Lil' Update

Tuesday Mar 26, 2024

Dear Diary & Listeners,

Per your request, I have chosen to break up the interviews with solo update episodes.

Here is a fun update. Well- fun in terms of entertainment I guess.

What you'll hear today had me shook.

Thanks for letting me share and be vulnerable with you. I am forever grateful...

Forever Speaking My Truth,
Amanda Lynette Arnier, MLS

VIDEO RECORDINGS OF EPISODES ARE HERE!

WE ARE ACTIVELY LOOKING FOR SEASON TWO'S STORY!
If you or anyone you know has experienced anything similar and is willing to share, please click the link below to schedule a time to chat with me.
Season Two Story Pitch Call
Email: TheDichotomyDiaries@yahoo.com
Music: Ashley England
Guest: SOLO
Sound Production: Amanda L. Arnier
Patreon: The Dichotomy Diaries
Merch: The Dichotomy Diaries Podcast Storefront
YouTube: Video Recordings of Episodes!
Podcast Website: www.TheDichotomyDiaries.com
Insta: @TheDichotomyDiariesPodcast
TikTok: @TheDichotomyDiaries
Facebook: The Dichotomy Diaries

Tuesday Apr 09, 2024

Total Eclipse of the Heart

Tuesday Apr 09, 2024

Dear Diary & Listeners,
Today's solar eclipse reminds us of the beauty that can be found in life's uncertainties, prompting a brief ONE WEEK hiatus for The Dichotomy Diaries.
(I KNOWWWWWWW)
I'm grappling with personal challenges, including family matters and financial stress to the MAX.
I feel guilty for deviating from our schedule, trust me.
However, quality remains paramount as we anticipate new global listeners via a very exciting opportunity.
During this brief break, I'll address these challenges and return with content that exceeds expectations.
On a brighter note, our first interviewee, Joanna, will be introduced via social media before her episode goes live with Part One on April 16th and Part Two on April 23rd.
Your patience and support are appreciated as we navigate life's curveballs.
Thank you for understanding.
Forever Speaking My Truth,
Amanda Arnier, MLS
VIDEO RECORDINGS OF EPISODES ARE HERE!
WE ARE ACTIVELY LOOKING FOR SEASON TWO'S STORY!
If you or anyone you know has experienced anything similar and is willing to share, please click the link below to schedule a time to chat with me.
Season Two Story Pitch Call
Email: TheDichotomyDiaries@yahoo.com
Music: Ashley England
Guest: SOLO
Sound Production: Amanda L. Arnier
Patreon: The Dichotomy Diaries
Merch: The Dichotomy Diaries Podcast Storefront
YouTube: Video Recordings of Episodes!
Podcast Website: www.TheDichotomyDiaries.com
Insta: @TheDichotomyDiariesPodcast
TikTok: @TheDichotomyDiaries
Facebook: The Dichotomy Diaries

Tuesday Apr 16, 2024

JOANNA - Houston, We Have a Squatter: Part 1

Tuesday Apr 16, 2024

Dear Diary & Listeners,
In this compelling episode, Amanda sits down with Joanna to delve into her personal journey with a former partner who, coincidentally, they both know.
Joanna candidly shares the story of their meeting, the subtle early signs of manipulation she noticed, and the profound impact it had on her life.
Both Amanda and Joanna hope that by sharing this story, it will provide solace to others and illuminate the realities of narcissistic abuse. They explore the characteristics of women often targeted by narcissists and the manipulative tactics they employ.
From the outset, Joanna's father had reservations about Dick. Yet, Dick managed to maintain a convincing facade, impressing Joanna's family to some extent.
As circumstances would have it, Joanna found herself becoming roommates with Dick, eventually leading to an "exclusive" relationship...or so she thought.
The relationship seemed picture-perfect on social media, providing Joanna with a sense of security. However, this facade crumbled when she began receiving messages about Dick's inappropriate behavior.
Joanna soon recognized that Dick had used his Mormon faith as yet another tool for manipulation.
In addition to this, Joanna discovered some of Dick's unconventional side hustles, one of which even surprised Amanda.
Much like Amanda, Joanna found herself trapped in a trauma bond with Dick, experiencing lies, abandonment, verbal abuse, and coercion firsthand.
VIDEO RECORDINGS OF EPISODES ARE HERE!
Please give Joanna a follow & support her business!
Personal Instagram: @_joannahans
Business Instagram: @livingbreadbakehouse
TikTok: @joanna.hans
Business Website: https://www.joannahans.com

WE ARE ACTIVELY LOOKING FOR SEASON TWO'S STORY!
If you or anyone you know has experienced anything similar and is willing to share, please click the link below to schedule a time to chat with me.
Season Two Story Pitch Call
Email: TheDichotomyDiaries@yahoo.com
Music: Ashley England
Guest: Joanna Hans
Sound Production: Amanda L. Arnier
Patreon: The Dichotomy Diaries
Merch: The Dichotomy Diaries Podcast Storefront
YouTube: Video Recordings of Episodes!
Podcast Website: www.TheDichotomyDiaries.com
Insta: @TheDichotomyDiariesPodcast
TikTok: @TheDichotomyDiaries
Facebook: The Dichotomy Diaries

Thursday Apr 25, 2024

JOANNA - Houston, We Have a Squatter: Part 2

Thursday Apr 25, 2024

Dear Diary & Listeners,
In this segment of the conversation, Joanna and Amanda delve into the intricate dynamics of Joanna's relationship with her ex-partner, Dick.
They explore Dick's isolated lifestyle, his fixation on fitness and steroid use, as well as his troubling control over Joanna's diet and body image. Furthermore, they shed light on his neglectful behavior as a father to his daughter.
The discussion also touches upon Dick's manipulative tactics, including his skillful redirection during arguments and exploitation of Joanna's talents and creativity.
Joanna bravely shares her profound sense of entrapment and manipulation in the relationship, detailing the emotional and physical abuse she endured. She recounts harrowing experiences, including a violent incident where Dick attempted to suffocate her.
Amidst the darkness, Joanna opens up about her journey to healing and the pivotal role therapy played in her recovery process.
Follow Joanna and support her business ventures through the links below:
Personal Instagram: @_joannahans Business Instagram: @livingbreadbakehouse TikTok: @joanna.hans Business Website: https://www.joannahans.com

WE ARE ACTIVELY LOOKING FOR SEASON TWO'S STORY!
If you or anyone you know has experienced anything similar and is willing to share, please click the link below to schedule a time to chat with me.
Season Two Story Pitch Call
Email: TheDichotomyDiaries@yahoo.com
Music: Ashley England
Guest: Joanna Hans
Sound Production: Amanda L. Arnier
Patreon: The Dichotomy Diaries
Merch: The Dichotomy Diaries Podcast Storefront
YouTube: Video Recordings of Episodes!
Podcast Website: www.TheDichotomyDiaries.com
Insta: @TheDichotomyDiariesPodcast
TikTok: @TheDichotomyDiaries
Facebook: The Dichotomy Diaries

Thursday May 02, 2024

ROHANNA - Never Been Pro

Thursday May 02, 2024

Dear Diary & Listeners,
In this deep and insightful conversation, Rohanna and I explore Rohanna’s multifaceted life experiences, touching on her early life on Whidbey Island, her journey through homeschooling, and her early marriage. Rohanna also shares about her collaborative natural body care business with her mom in the Pacific Northwest, and the beauty of living near the orcas.
The conversation shifts to more personal themes, delving into Rohanna’s past narcissistic relationship with you guessed it....Dick. The revelations of abuse begin to align with the healing power of storytelling as we both reflect on the importance of empathy, accountability, and reciprocity. We candidly discuss the dynamics of different relationships, from familial to romantic, highlighting the lessons learned about safety, trust, and maintaining one’s individuality.
Throughout, Rohanna hopes her openness helps others feel less alone, emphasizing the strength found in shared stories and the support of true friendship- an amazing byproduct of Dick's treacherous ways.
Please give Rohanna a follow and support her business:
https://www.sweetsistersbodycare.com
Business Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sweetsistersbodycare
Personal Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wildonefit

WE ARE ACTIVELY LOOKING FOR SEASON TWO'S STORY!
If you or anyone you know has experienced anything similar and is willing to share, please click the link below to schedule a time to chat with me.
Season Two Story Pitch Call
Email: TheDichotomyDiaries@yahoo.com
Music: Ashley England
Guest: Rohanna Wildon
Sound Production: Amanda L. Arnier
Patreon: The Dichotomy Diaries
Merch: The Dichotomy Diaries Podcast Storefront
YouTube: Video Recordings of Episodes!
Podcast Website: www.TheDichotomyDiaries.com
Insta: @TheDichotomyDiariesPodcast
TikTok: @TheDichotomyDiaries
Facebook: The Dichotomy Diaries

Saturday May 18, 2024

KYLIE - All Bark. No Bite.

Saturday May 18, 2024

Dear Diary & Listeners,
In this episode, Kylie opens up about what drove her to be part of The Dichotomy Diaries podcast as we reflect on our shared experiences with relationships.
Join me as Kylie Brocato bravely shares her story about dating Dick, a man with a violent criminal history. What started with attraction and compliments soon turned into a nightmare of verbal abuse, manipulation, and attempts to disrupt her co-parenting relationship.
Despite the chaos, Kylie’s strength shone through, and she ultimately ended the toxic relationship, leading to a much healthier co-parenting dynamic with her ex. We dive deep into the dynamics of Kylie's relationship with Dick, including his neglect of his own children while trying to claim hers, his financial instability and gambling, and his secret life as a sex worker for men!
Kylie’s revelation about being deceived by Dick's false narratives highlights the importance of setting boundaries and recognizing red flags. We also discuss how Dick used location sharing as a control tactic, the financial strain he caused, and his outrageous public behavior.
Join us for a heartfelt and insightful conversation that underscores the importance of resilience, boundaries, and self-awareness in relationships. Don't forget to like, comment, and subscribe for more episodes every week! 💖

Forever Speaking My Truth,
Amanda

CLICK HERE FOR THE VIDEO RECORDING OF THIS EPISODE!

WE ARE ACTIVELY LOOKING FOR SEASON TWO'S STORY!
If you or anyone you know has experienced anything similar and is willing to share, please click the link below to schedule a time to chat with me.
Season Two Story Pitch Call
Email: TheDichotomyDiaries@yahoo.com
Music: Ashley England
Guest: Kylie Brocato
Sound Production: Amanda L. Arnier
Patreon: The Dichotomy Diaries
Merch: The Dichotomy Diaries Podcast Storefront
YouTube: Video Recordings of Episodes!
Podcast Website: www.TheDichotomyDiaries.com
Insta: @TheDichotomyDiariesPodcast
TikTok: @TheDichotomyDiaries
Facebook: The Dichotomy Diaries

Ready to Share your Truth?

If you have been deeply affected by a close relationship and are ready and willing to help others by sharing your personal journey, I invite you to connect with me by clicking the link below. Your authentic experiences can help us shine a light on this complex issue, fostering understanding and healing for others.

By collecting real, unfiltered experiences, we can finally make a stride towards creating policy that protect us and future generations—because when it comes to The Courts, the power is in the numbers.

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❤️Amanda